For many, the idea of hospitality can be overwhelming. Social media and our own perfectionism can make the idea of hosting stressful and out of reach. If the thought of having company makes you freeze, you should know creating a home of hospitality doesn’t begin with your home but with your welcome.
Hospitality vs Entertainment
Your welcome is the heart of hospitality. It’s simply sharing what you have and treating others as honored guests. Conversely, entertaining focuses on elevating the impression rather than the guest. Everyone wants to create a good impression, but when it becomes the main focus, the stress of expectations can quickly make the most seasoned hostess stressed and distracted.
If this feels challenging, consider what experiences you’ve had in other’s homes that made you feel welcome. So much of hospitality begins simply by making others feel seen — not whether the kitchen has been remodeled or that a four-star meal is served.
Setting the Scene
We all remember our moms telling us to clean our rooms before company came. I recommend shutting the doors to the bedrooms. If having company over equals a major cleaning overhaul of the house, it’s already become a defeating experience. Consider preparing only the areas where you can visit with your guests comfortably.
Children and teens can be part of the preparations as well. Make it a family mission. Include them in age-appropriate activities such as:
●Straighten main living/dining areas
●Clean one bathroom for guests
●Clear off main kitchen counters
●Add a vase of flowers
●Set out glassware and drinks so guests can help themselves
Move Outdoors
In warmer months, move the welcome outdoors. Having friends and family over in the summertime is one of our favorite things to do. I keep a supply of paper goods and meats for grilling on hand. We love to fire up the grill, roast marshmallows over an open fire, and welcome long conversations into the night. If hosting others in your home feels challenging, consider how you can use your deck or patio as hospitality-central when the weather is good.
Breaking Bread
Feeding guests can be a daunting aspect of hospitality. The menu is a great way to flex culinary muscles for those who love to cook. However, most seasoned hosts recommend keeping food simple:
●Serve take-out pizza with a fresh salad and brownies
●Prepare a family recipe and send guests home with the written recipe
●Set up a Soup and Salad Bar on the kitchen counter
●Theme Meals: Italian, Mexican, Sub Sandwiches
When guests offer to bring something, I almost always accept the offer. Most people understand life is busy and want to help alleviate some pressure.
New Approach
Simplify your approach and attitude to hosting and you’ll realize it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With practice, it gets easier. When it comes to creating a home of hospitality, Eleanor Roosevelt said wisely, “True hospitality consists of giving the best of yourself to your guests.” Offer the best of you and your guests will always be blessed.
